Jealousy

Jealousy is a form of anger that arises towards anything perceived as a threat to a partially satisfied need.

It is problematic as it manifests as an unreasonable desire to control or possess something or somebody.

It is present in some people but not others, which suggests it is a feature of their conditioning, i.e., trauma.

So how might this trauma cause jealousy?

In two ways:

Firstly, they feel dependent on another for safety, love, etc. They believe they cannot secure these needs on their own. These are important needs and wants, but if one can only ever fulfil them through another person, dependence forms.

Secondly, they believe that the availability of this supportive person is limited. Either they feel exceptionally lucky to have found such a person and fear never finding another, or they view the person as uniquely rare and irreplaceable.

If the need is love, or more commonly attention, jealousy will surface at the slightest instance when this attention wavers.

So.

Recognise that your trauma, which manifests as personality traits that both you and others ‘have to suffer’, creates jealousy through perceived dependence. This dependence is illusory. Love, and all that you need, already exists within your mind — it must. At present, you fixate on external things. Trust that all you need lies within. Yes, there are wonderful people who can inspire and help you, but your feelings of dependence are simply remnants of your trauma.

Once you eliminate dependence and become aware of how jealousy operates, you should find things improve. ❤️🙏

“There is no fire like passion, no shark like hatred, no snare like folly, no torrent like craving.”
— Dhammapada 251